You know what I’m talking about…
It is the criticism, the under appreciation, the anonymous letter and the daily betrayals that can leave you looking like Rocky Balboa on the inside. So where do you go when your child says that you are no longer a good mom or everyone in your job is advancing faster than you?
Hopefully you have a cornerman or cutman.
Read the definition from Wikipedia below and think about how helpful a figurative cutperson would be in your life.
A cornerman, or simply corner, is a term for a coach or teammate assisting a fighter during the length of a bout. The cornerman remains outside the combat area during the fight, but in proximity, and can assist the fighter through instruction. This instruction can take place in between rounds, as in boxing. The cornerman occasionally performs cutman duties such as applying ice to reduce swelling and stopping bleeding. The cornerman may also be responsible for throwing in the towel when necessary.
Can you imagine as a parent or employee having some older person with a small beanie cap who is willing to assist, instruct, reduce swelling, stop bleeding and even help you throw in the towel when you don’t have the strength to? As I write this post this morning, I can tell you what it is like to have cornerpeople in my life as a dad, husband and leader. I can also tell you what it feels like to go back to the corner after a fight and realize that nobody is there.
In the last several years I have heard 2 “seasoned” pastors say something to me that continues to catch my attention. They would love nothing more than to find a younger pastor and to serve as their corner man. As a young’ish pastor, I got googly eyed at the prospect of stepping out in leadership and knowing there would be someone to instruct and encourage me as well as stitch me up and reduce the swelling caused by the daily duties of leadership.
As a quick aside, I am also aware this morning that I have caused some bruising in the lives of others as well. I pray that each person in my family or those I lead in ministry find a cornerperson, but I also need to be a better corner for those I love and believe in.
Think about the courage to be gained in all facets of you life if you knew there was a cornerman or cornerwoman waiting for you?
1. If you don’t have a corner…think of someone who would be a good fit….forward them this article and then invite them to your corner.
2. The cutmen in my life have been greatly used by God over the years…but they are not God. Cast your anxieties first to God and then let Mick stitch you up and help reduce the swelling.