(My hope for this post isn’t to make some great statement, rather I am aiming to raise some observations and questions. I am very intrigued to see what you think as well)
Without a doubt, homosexuality has been the most heated and divisive conversation for the church in recent history. This discussion has been costly, painful and confusing. I have witnessed some compelling and warped theology on both sides. Another interesting dynamic is the growing number of millenials with “evangelical’ish” tendencies who can’t quite figure out why same sex marriage and homosexuality is such a big deal. In no way do I want to make light of this issue, yet while we have tended to the issues surrounding homosexuality, I perceive we (the church) have been hiding from an even larger issue.
So what are we hiding from?
I think many in evangelical and conservative churches are hiding from the reality of issues plaguing heterosexuality and sexuality as a whole. As a heterosexual male, it is much easier for me to find fault and point the finger at homosexuality while ignoring the issues that are alive in well in my own sexual orientation. Divorce, infidelity, pornography, emotional abuse and many other issues are festering in our churches, yet many of these listed are merely elephants in the room. My educated guess about my own church is that more people are confronted with infidelity and pornography than homosexuality. For most of us, this list really hits home in one way or another.
Going further, do our young people and even adults for that matter know what it means to be male and female? Do they understand that they are unique in the way the way God knit them? Or in marriages, how many couples are struggling with issues of intimacy? I would venture to say that there are way more couples dealing with intimacy issues than you and I would imagine.
I’m not really sure how to approach this as a church leader, but I am excited to think from cradle to grave about how we teach and approach sexuality as a whole. The soundbites of information about this and that are not helpful to adolescents who are navigating these difficult waters. I would love to know your thoughts on approaching the issue of sexuality as a church, reaching each generation. What needs to be brought to the light and how?
For Further Reading:
- I just wrote a post on pornography, which is a major elephant in the church in terms of sexuality.
- My friend Tyler Smither wrote a viral and provocative piece that will really push many conservatives to see the issue from another angle.
In my opinion, he brings light to a MUCH NEEDED epidemic while almost* dismissing a theological response to homosexuality.